Bisexuals are supposed to be equally attracted to men and women – always androgyny, but never to trans people – and always at the same time. They supposedly need to have identical amounts of sex with both, and don’t notice the differences between them (which might get painful in bed, I reckon). We’re all told bisexuality is a phase that everyone goes through and grows out of, and no one’s a “proper” bisexual, even though “everyone’s bisexual really”. Bisexuals are depicted as the monsters spreading Aids, and breaking the hearts of partners inevitably cast aside for a different gender. Who’d want to be bi!
Oddly, the only people not confused about bisexuality are the bisexuals themselves, with groups like The Bisexual Index advocating a clearer definition – they simply suggest anyone who is attracted to more than one gender should consider identifying as bi. It’s not about amount of attraction either, just as simply preferring lettuce to liver doesn’t make you a vegan.
I always thought the B’s had a hard time fitting in with the LG’s because of the notion that they were attracted to both sexes made them sound like they had and wanted to have multiple sex partners at all times- Something the LG’s have insisted to the S’s that they would not have to tolerate as part of marriage equality.
Hmm, which is scarier: me married to my bf, or a bisexual married to a woman — who could strike at any time straight guys!
It probably goes back to the puritan notions of sexual identity, that the second one person dares to step to the same sex side of things, they are suddenly some complete deviant freak because homos only want to have sex all the time. You know, because there’s no monogamy on the gay side of things. Only straight couples believe in it. We couldn’t possibly be enamored with a person in particular - only the idea of what those pants are hiding and what we could do if they were off. It’s funny that bi is so little understood on either side. I prefer girls, I’ve been with guys. The future I will likely end up with a woman but could end up with a guy. I don’t feel like I should be negatively defined by this, or that any partner should feel disingenuine towards them because of any supposed orientation thing. Also, I’m not faking it, it’s not for performance and I don’t plan on choosing an absolute side, unless you count ending up with someone I love “choosing a side.”